Demi is when you might develop romantic attraction only after a strong platonic bond. The real question is, have you ever felt romantic attraction? If your answer to that is "I have no flipping clue" that's a pretty good aromantic indicator (I tore my hair out for months over that question, I still don't know the answer to what romantic attraction is but at least I'm comfortable saying I'm aromantic.) The best options for somewhere inbetween would be greyromantic or demiromantic: grey is sometimes used as just an umbrella, non-specific, but arospec term, but is more frequently a way of saying you get very rare but occasional romantic attractions. Each relationship is completely different. QPRs could get married, have kids, pass themselves off as dating, be adamant that they are simply best friends, do any number of typical romantic actions or none at all. Only platonic feelings are involved, but you are quite emotionally close and you love and care for each other as much as if it were a romantic relationship, but it's not a romantic love. For instance, my QP is romantic, but gets squishes and, obviously, is in a QPR.) A QPR (queer/quasi-platonic relationship) is basically being in a committed relationship with your best friend. The platonic/aromantic version of dating (though some aromantics do enter romantic relationships) would be a QPR (though neither squishes or QPRs are reserved only for aromantic people, we're just more likely to notice or seek those kinds of things out. Basically, you want to be close friends with a person and be emotionally close to them. Squishes are basically platonic crushes, or the aromantic version of crushes. And then I got a QPR shortly after coming to terms with all of that, so that was cool It's not a normal idea in our society, and so a lot of aromantics can feel kind of lost wondering what they're supposed to do to get around that.
I went through a period of immense mental loneliness after accepting being aromantic, because I felt like it was simply impossible for me to find something like a QPR or other relationship that could be similar to life partners without romantic or sexual expectations. And differing expectations for Valentine's day don't normally trip up QPRs ) Aromantics are not cold hearted, or somehow excused from the need of human support and company. (In my opinion its slightly more stable, too, because (generally) things likes a lack of sex or assumed cheating or not spending enough time don't cause much friction. It's a very human dream in general: remember, aromantics can still love, just as strongly as any other type of love. Wanting a life partner isn't necessarily romantic either. I myself am aromantic and your description all rung very true for me. In fact, I would argue that aromantics want emotional closeness even more, because we don't have the handy excuse of romantic relationships. Just because you're aromantic doesn't mean you don't want emotional closeness.
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